Children who witness violence also suffer because they are aware of each phase of the cycle of violence. They may feel responsible for what their mother is going through and suffer the same consequences as: anxiety, fear, guilt, helplessness, etc.

The youth intervention is for mothers and their children under 18 years old. The specific objectives of the service are to foster and strengthen the mother–child relationship, to support the mother in her role and to work on the impacts of violence.

The cycle of violence

Domestic violence is recognized by the repetition of the cycle in which the scenes of violence become more and more frequent and intense and where the girl keeps hope that her boyfriend will change.

The stages of the cycle of violence are:

  • Tension: “I feel stressed when my boyfriend is in a bad mood. I manage not to annoy him.”
  • Aggression: “That’s it, he explodes. I am afraid for my safety. I just want to protect myself.”
  • His justification and her self-blaming: “I’m starting to wonder if what’s happening is my fault. He had a difficult childhood, I should be more understanding.”
  • Honeymoon: “He apologized and promised to change. He told me that he had never loved a girl as much as me. I think he understood this time.”

Violence does not happen overnight. It settles gradually and insidiously by words and inappropriate gestures. Over time, the means of control and violence increase, as well as the effects on the victim.

The shelter offers support to mothers and their children. Adolescent girls who experience violence in their romantic or family relationship may also seek support.

Simply call 450 378-9297 and explain your situation. The worker will question you in order to understand your reality, with the purpose of giving you the best possible support.